Posts Tagged ‘words’

DadPad: Quotes & Notes – They are listening

March 4, 2010

The words that a father speaks to his children in the privacy of home are not heard by the world, but, as in whispering-galleries, they are clearly heard at the end and by posterity.  ~Jean Paul Richter

A number of years ago I wondered if my children heard anything that I had said.  There was a lot of head nodding and seeming understanding.  Yet, responses by action didn’t jive with those words of sage advice I had offered ;).  Than, one day I overheard my son talking to a friend of his.  I don’t recall the detail but he repeated something that I had spoken to him earlier as if he was now the authority.  I smirked to myself and learned that they are listening even when it doesn’t appear to be so.  Then, a brief moment of anxiety fell over me.  How many times had I said something that was less than sage, maybe even damaging, that I had prayed they WOULDN’T hear?

Truth is that I have spoken both words of encouragement and wisdom as well as words that hurt.  At the end of the day, that experience made me weigh my words on both sides to make sure that I didn’t waste any of them.  Because, they are listening.

What experiences have you had where you learned that you’re kids heard you loud and clear; those spoken in good times and those spoken out of anger and you wished you had back?

Encouragement Paid Forward

March 1, 2009

My wife is a great note giver. For years she’s included a note or prayer in the kid’s lunch, in the luggage of a traveling family member or on a counter-top white board. Her diligence in this area spurred me on to express words of encouragement to my kids in similar ways. Shuffling though the Bible to find a relevant passage to leave with the kids before I left for work was one way I tried to encourage them in their daily activities.

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The Greatest Words I Never Heard

February 25, 2009

Reba McEntire, before she began her sitcom acting career, sang some of the saddest and most touching ballads of loneliness and longing. She has that evocative catch in her voice, and she tells picturesque, but believable stories in these sad songs. But, none of them has stayed with me like this one, which expresses a child’s desire for a father’s love and attention:

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