Posts Tagged ‘quotes’

DadPad Quotes & Notes: Soap on a Rope?

March 12, 2010

Fatherhood is pretending the present you love most is soap-on-a-rope.  ~Bill Cosby

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Most of you (if you’re under the age of 40) probably have never seen soap-on-a-rope.  Maybe today it would be substituted for an ugly tie or cartoon imprinted boxers.  Well, I could launch into a “van ride chat” (my kids would be able to tell you that a van was my favorite place to share a “lesson of life” (or a boring monologue in their presence) because they couldn’t escape my “sage” advice.  But, Bill Cosby is a funny guy and even I can’t try to take something that was meant to be a little tongue in cheek and turn it into some lesson.

So, today’s post is simple (and meant to be interactive):  What’s the funniest (or lamest) gift you’ve ever received as a dad or given to your dad (either intentionally or in retrospect you realized how silly it was)?  And, what was your reply (or your dad’s reply) when the gift was given?  (who knows, maybe we’ll generate a lot of ideas for Father’s Day in June 🙂

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DadPad Quotes & Notes: Oil and Idol

March 10, 2010

“I talk and talk and talk, and I haven’t taught people in 50 years what my father taught by example in one week.” — Mario Cuomo

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I got a call from my college senior yesterday.  He asked me if there was any special oil that the old SUV he drives up at school needed to be asked for when he took it in for an oil change.  It’s the kind of questions that sons ask dads all the time.  But, I was reminded that there are so many things in this life that you just need to experience to understand.  I am NOT a mechanically astute dad.  I remember changing the water pump on a 1960-something Rambler when I was in my late teens.  Over the past few years I’ve learned how to better manage my car but I’ll never be the first person others think of to ask for help in working on their car.  Compared to my dad, though, I’m Mr. Goodwrench.  I don’t mean any disrespect to my dad.  He’s got other great qualities.  Mechanical aptitude isn’t one of them.  Though I’m no NASCAR pit crew member, I have decided that I want my son to learn the basics in life that will help him take care of things, even if he’s not gifted in that way.  I realize my influence on him toward that end is stronger than I might naturally think.

Here’s a test for you–next time you meet someone that has a specific talent, ask them if they learned it from or worked on it together with their dad.  Last night on American Idol, Siobhan Magnus was asked by Ryan Seacrest about the song she chose.  She chose the song she did (House of the Rising Sun) because it was her dad’s favorite.  Then, she indicated that her dad was the best singer she had ever heard (and said that her dad had said that she was the best singer he had heard).  Point is, a dad’s involvement in a child’s life is often the reason that the child grows into a skill or even a career.

Mario Cuomo stated it well in the quote above.  A dad’s influence in their child’s life is much more impacting than anything else when it’s done out of love for the child.  As an aside, a dad’s influence is just as powerful the opposite direction as well in leaving a lasting legacy of hurt and pain when NOT not done in love.

For discussion: What seeds have you sown into your child’s life in terms of skill or encouraging a talent that you’ve seen the fruit of later?  Or, how did your dad build into you around a skill or talent that you’ve benefited from throughout your life?

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DadPad: Quotes & Notes 2/22

February 22, 2010

You might not expect to hear from one of the most prominent feminists on the DadPad but I thought this quote from her was revealing and true:

Most American children suffer too much mother and too little father.
Gloria Steinem

Do you agree?  Why or why not?

DadPad: Quotes & Notes

February 19, 2010

From one of my favorite movies:

Stanley T. Banks; Father of the Bride
You fathers will understand. You have a little girl. She looks up to you. You’re her oracle. You’re her hero. And then the day comes when she gets her first permanent wave and goes to her first real party, and from that day on, you’re in a constant state of panic.

As the father of two young women, I’m awaiting the day that my daughters meet “Mr. Right”.  For now and until that day, I’d settle for being their hero 🙂 (next to the Lord, of course).